You're having trouble with setting up your POP3 account for Outlook Express?
I don't use OE myself, but it should be straightforward -- your incoming mail should be set to a POP3 account, with mail.speak-your-mind.com as the server, port number 110 (the default value), and the username and password as sent to you by the NetHosted guys.
Your outgoing (SMTP) server will also be mail.speak-your-mind.com, and port 25 (again, the default value). You don't need to specify any username or password for that, so make sure you don't check any options for a "secure connection" or "TLS" or anything like that.
If you have any other problems, it might help if you could post a screenshot of your OE settings here...
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